Monday, July 4, 2011

K-Y Intimacy Experiment Days 7 and 8

Okay, so I kind of slacked off a little bit and missed a few days of the experiment- you know what they say about the best laid plans, yadda yadda yadda. Today, I made up for lost time by doing the exercises for both day 7 and 8.

For day 7, I'm supposed to discover my very own "love map." According to the booklet, "this term refers to the sexual template expressed in every individual's erotic fantasies and practices. In other words, our love maps represent the blueprint of our erotic desires that drives our turn-ons, turn-offs, and sexual fantasies. Your love map explains everything from why you gravitate to a particular physical type to what feeds your private fantasies and actual practices." Alright, that makes sense. Now what?

The booklet instructed me to describe my most erotically memorable experiences and answer some questions about them. I'm not going to go into detail here, because I think that would be a little TMI, but rest assured I do have some memorable erotic experiences that I reflect upon from time to time. Next I'm supposed to think about external turn-ons and turn-offs and list five of each. No problem!

  1. Long hair
  2. The sound of rain or thunder
  3. Dirty talk
  4. The feel and smell of leather
  5. The sight of my naked or scantily clad lover
  1. Bad smells of any sort
  2. Bright lights
  3. Annoying noises
  4. The feel of rough stubble
  5. Awkward positions
Lastly, I'm instructed to think about my recurring fantasies and answer some questions about them. Once again, I'm going to keep that info to myself.

 Your erotic memories, turn-ons, turn-offs, and fantasies make up the landscape of your love map.  You should share that information with your partner, and the two of you can use them to spice things up. Personally, my partner and I shared our fantasies with each other long ago and I'm very glad that we did!

For Day 8 of the experiment, my  partner and I were supposed to cook a meal together. According to the booklet, cooking and eating together are a great way to bond as a couple, and it cites a survey which found that couples who cook together are significantly more satisfied with their relationships and sex lives. I'm a little skeptical about that claim, because I've personally never been turned on by cooking, or eating meals together for that matter.

My partner does almost all of our cooking, because he's good at it and he enjoys it. When I try to help, I just end up in the way. So, I wasn't super thrilled about today's exercise- cooking a meal together. The booklet urged us to cook an oyster dish because oysters are supposed to be aphrodisiacs, but neither of us were down with that. We made a pasta dish instead. It went much as I expected- he did just about everything and I stood off to the side trying not to get in the way. This one just wasn't for us! That's ok, though- we bond in plenty of other ways.

Would you like to participate in the K-Y Intimacy Experiment? Just visit the KY Experiment tab on COUPLES PLACE. Also, check out my giveaway for a chance to win a great K-Y kit!

Disclosure: I wrote this post while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review.