Sunday, July 3, 2011

K-Y Intimacy Experiment Day 6: Getting Back in Touch

One thing that people in relationships often complain about is a lack of physical affection outside of the bedroom. Affection is a wonderful thing- it can make you feel safe, loved, and connected. According to one 2008 study, it might even lower your blood pressure! So, today's exercises are all about getting back in touch with my partner.

First, I'm supposed to ask myself the following questions:

Q: Think back on the past few days or week. Not including sex, how often did you touch each other throughout the day?
A: So many times that I really can't keep track. Dozens of times per day, I believe.

Q: Did your physical interactions include hugs, hand holding and cuddling?
A: Yes, we do all of those things most days.

Now I am to come up with 10 ways you could touch my partner in a positive, loving way today. Here are my ideas:
1. Cuddle for a few minutes before we get up in the morning.
2. Kiss goodbye before he goes to work.
3. Greet him with a hug and kiss when he gets home from work.
4. Cuddle together on the couch while watching a show.
5.  Rub his feet.
6. Hold hands.
7. Take a shower together and wash each other.
8. Play with his hair.
9. Rub his shoulders.
10. Spoon while drifting off to sleep.

I'm also supposed to give my partner an erotic massage, but I'm saving that for a little later :)

At the end of the day, there are a few more questions to answer.

Q. How many positive types of touch were you able to share with your partner today?
A: I was able to use several of my ideas, but not all of them. The day isn't over yet, though!

Q. What, if anything, prevented you from touching him even more?
A. He worked all day and then went to practice with his band, so I didn't get to start spending time with him until about 9pm.

Q. Did you enjoy the positive touch? Feel loved? Smothered?
A. I always enjoy touching and being touched by him.

This was probably the easiest day of the experiment so far for me, because I really didn't have to do anything that I wouldn't normally do. I've had relationships in the past where affection was lacking, and I'm so glad that isn't an issue with my current partner- it really sucks when the person you're with doesn't seem to like being affectionate with you. So, if you've been slacking off on touching your partner, step it up! It can really make a big difference for a lot of people.

Would you like to participate in the K-Y Intimacy Experiment? Just visit the KY Experiment tab on COUPLES PLACE. Also, check out my giveaway for a chance to win a great K-Y kit!

Disclosure: I wrote this post while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review.