If you've ever been in a long-term relationship, chances are you've had the experience of being "in a rut" before. Even if your relationship is rock solid and you have great chemistry with your partner, there are bound to be times when you don't quite feel the burning passion that you used to. Maybe things have gotten a little too routine in the bedroom. Maybe you've been too busy and stressed out to get intimate with your partner. Maybe you've just gotten a little lazy about keeping the fire going. Over time, a lack of intimacy can really damage your relationship- but not to worry! With a little effort, you can get out of that rut and experience a fulfilling intimate relationship with your partner once again.
The K-Y Brand Intimacy Experiment was developed by the experts at
Good in Bed with the support of K-Y Brand K-Y Brand This 10 day experiment was designed to help couples reconnect and rediscover the fun, passion, and sizzle of sex. For more information, please visit the KY Experiment tab on COUPLES PLACE.
As a participant in this experiment, I will be making daily blog posts for the next ten days as I follow the steps of the program. I am also going to be giving away two awesome K-Y Intimacy Experiment kits- see the bottom of this post for details.
Day One: Love Nest
According to my K-Y Intimacy Experiment booklet, "for women, relaxation-and a lack of concern about their surroundings- is key to pleasure." Luckily for me, I have that lack of concern part down. My bedroom is usually kind of a disaster area, but that doesn't deter my fiance and I from having plenty of fun in there. Nevertheless, attempting to turn our bedroom into a "love nest" certainly couldn't hurt.
Exercise #1 (Day)
Goal: Create a private play-space that's inspiring and protected from the stresses of the outside world by following these steps:
1. Assess the Mess.
My assessment: Yep, that sure is a big mess. The biggest issue is the laundry, both clean and dirty, which is piled all over the place.
2. Eliminate the negative. Get rid of all that clutter!
Ugh, do I have to? Ok, ok... I put away my clean clothes, got the dirty clothes out of sight, vacuumed, and made the bed.
3. Consider what's left. Consider changing your sheets, adding some scented candles and flowers, and changing the decor.
I would love to change my bedroom decor, but right now I just don't have the money to do so. I did put on my nicest sheets and brought in a few decorative items from other rooms, though. I moved our old TV into the bedroom so that we can watch adult movies in there if we feel like it. The booklet suggests bringing in a cd player for mood music, but I know from experience that music just distracts me during sex so I'm going to skip that.
4. Gather your playthings. Fill a "toy box" with adult items- massage oils, lubricants, vibrating toys, etc.
This was my favorite step! I've actually won several adult items lately, and half of them were still boxed up. In the heat of the moment, I sure don't want to have to dig something out of a box and put batteries in it! So, I put a few new toys, a few old favorites, and some of the items from my K-Y kit in the attractive box the kit came with and placed it on the dresser beside our bed.
Exercise #2 (Night)
Now it's time to enjoy a night of passion with my fiance in our newly clean, re-organized room. The booklet says to "use this first night as an opportunity to awaken your senses and your mind to the rest of the program." Sounds good!
Results: Honestly, the bedroom revamp had very little effect on the quality of the sex. This is probably because I don't get turned off by messes very much and I tend to focus on my partner rather than what the room looks like. As long as the room smells good and there aren't any annoying noises (like the dog barking in the other room), I'm good to go. Having the toys set up and within reach was a plus, though. Also, my fiance appreciated that I had put away the laundry.
Ok, now on to the giveaway!
*Giveaway*
Two (2) lucky readers will win a KY Intimacy Experiment kit! Please note that if you win one of the kits, you will be asked to participate in the experiment and blog about it as well- so please don't enter if you don't have a blog, or if you wouldn't be comfortable blogging about this topic. US residents only, sorry!
The kit includes:
*Mandatory Entry*
Simply tell me which product in the kit you would most like to try!
Please leave your email address in this entry. If you do not complete this entry, none of your other entries will be valid.
*Bonus Entries*
For extra entries, you may do any or all of the following.
Please leave a separate comment for each entry.
- Follow me on twitter @giveawaysetc and let me know what your twitter name is. (1entry)
- Send me a friend request on facebook
- Follow my blog via GFC- see the "followers" widget on my right sidebar (1 entry)
- Tweet about this giveaway- you may tweet once a day for an extra entry each day. You must use the hashtag #KYIntimacyExperiment and put a link to this post in your tweets, and you must leave a link to your tweet in your comment! (1 entry/day)
You may use this sample tweet if you'd like:
Need more intimacy in your relationship? Enter this #Giveaway for a chance to win a #KYIntimacyExperiment kit!
http://t.co/dXqBH5F
This giveaway ends on Tuesday, July 5th, at midnight (Eastern time). The winners will be determined by random.org and will be notified by email. Winners must respond to their email within 48 hours, or else new winners will be chosen. I am not in charge of prize delivery- the sponsor is. Good luck!
Please don't be lame and cheat. I may be lazy, but I will check to make sure your entries are legit. If you don't follow the rules, I reserve the right to delete your comments.
Disclosure: I wrote this post while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review.
