Monday, June 27, 2011

The K-Y Intimacy Experiment Day 2: It's Not Just About Sex

Day two of the experiment is all about having positive interactions with your partner outside of the bedroom. The booklet mentions something that I learned about in a psych class a few years ago: "Studies show that successful relationships tend to have a high ratio of positive to negative interactions. Experts believe that the ratio should be 5 to 1." So, you should aim to have at least five positive interactions (like hugging, holding hands, giving compliments) for every negative one (like bickering). Ever since I learned that little factoid years ago, I've made a conscious effort to have plenty of positive interactions with my partner, and so far it's worked out very well! Of course, it helps that my fiance is so easy to get along with.

The booklet also mentions that touching your partner is very important as well. Positive touch causes the brain to produce the chemical oxytocin, which helps to create a sense of emotional intimacy, and also helps relieve stress and improve mood. I know that a little cuddling after a hard day always makes me feel much better.

Today, I was supposed to track how often my partner and I interact positively in a journal, but I had a really hectic day today so I sort of slipped up on that. I have a good memory, though! My partner and I didn't interact a whole lot today because I was at work most of the time, but all of the interactions we did have were positive. Several hugs, kisses, some hand holding, good conversation, etc. Not to brag, but we get along really well and we're both affectionate- I think our ratio is probably more like 10 positive interactions per 1 negative. I feel like our emotional connection is very strong.

Would you like to participate in the K-Y Intimacy Experiment? Just visit the KY Experiment tab on COUPLES PLACE. Also, check out my giveaway for a chance to win a great K-Y kit!

Disclosure: I wrote this post while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review.