Wednesday, June 29, 2011

K-Y Intimacy Experiment Day 4: Outside the Comfort Zone

Day four of the experiment deals with balancing comfort and familiarity in a relationship with the unpredictability and sense of mystery which foster sexual attraction. I've been instructed to read this list of "offenses" which may cause a couple's sex life to suffer and identify which ones I'm guilt of. Let's take a look:

  • Sleep with kids or pets in the bedroom- No kids, but our dog does sleep with us. I wish she didn't, but it's preferable to listening to her bark and whine from the other room all night.
  • Have and use a television, computer, or smart phone in the bedroom- There's a TV in there, but we rarely use it.
  • Spend the evenings online- Sometimes, but I never prioritize that above spending time with my partner.
  • Spend time texting or playing with phone during date nights- Nope, I consider that to be very rude.
  • Leave the door open while in the bathroom- Nope
  • Perform personal grooming habits in front of partner- Yes, sometimes I brush my teeth and whatnot in front of him.
  • Sometimes skip basic hygiene (such as bathing or brushing your teeth) because you're too tired, lazy, or think your partner doesn't care- No, my hygiene is pretty good.
Now I'm supposed to review my answers and think about which of these acts I would never have performed in front of my partner at the beginning of the relationship. Well, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have done any of them. For one thing we didn't live together so some of them don't really apply (like sleeping with pets or a TV in the room), and others would have been embarassing. Most people are on their best behavior around a new partner, but as you become more familiar with each other you start letting a few things slide. I don't feel that the lack of "mystery" has made our sex life suffer, but I can see how it could be a problem for some couples. I know that if I was with someone who stopped taking care of their basic hygiene it would definitely be an issue!

Basically, the lesson of the day that you might not want to let yourself get too comfortable around your partner. If you're lazing about in a pile of your own fingernail clippings and dandruff while playing facebook games all evening, you may not seem as sexually appealing as you did long ago! So, use your brain. Try to be a little bit conscientious about these things.

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Disclosure: I wrote this post while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review.